My grandfather is on Hospice Care and will likely go home to be with the Lord in the next few days. He will be the first of my four grandparents to pass. I’m sure it will be difficult on my family, especially my grandmother, as they have been partners in crime for over seventy years. When asked how she was doing recently, she responded, “We’ve had a good life together and we will be together again one day.” She cherished my grandfather and he cherished her.
I’m sincerely grateful for the example of faithfulness and commitment in my grandparents and parents. Staying married “’til death parts us” is a difficult feat in and of itself, but enjoying your spouse for a lifetime is a completely different ball of wax. One that is not without effort on both ends.
But what if that’s not your family tree? What if your mother wasn’t cherished by your father or vice versa? What if the history of your family is riddled with brokenness, abuse, or neglect? Witnessing love and affection between parents may be a foreign concept. To you, marriage is an unnecessary commitment guaranteeing pain and rejection.
Unfortunately, this is true for far too many people I know. Thankfully, many of them have begun to look to their Heavenly Father as an example of love rather than their earthly fathers and husbands. Because the reality is, each member of our family is a sinful, flawed human being, lacking the ability to be the perfect example of love. Because of that, we can expect to experience feelings of loneliness and rejection from time to time. We may long to be loved, cherished, and accepted.
But, not feeling cherished doesn’t change the fact that we are.
When you aren’t feeling cherished, consider this:
The Lord has loved you with an everlasting love. He draws to you with unfailing kindness. (Jeremiah 31:3)
God has engraved you on the palm of His hands. (Isaiah 49:16)
Jesus gathers us in His arms and carries us close to His heart. (Isaiah 40:11)
You are precious, honored, and loved by the Father. (Isaiah 43:4)
It’s easy to look to others to make us feel loved, valued, or cherished. And although the marriage covenant is ideally designed to meet our needs in that way, it doesn’t always work out like that. But when our Heavenly Father becomes our ultimate source of affection, we don’t need it from others. His love far surpasses anything we could experience through human interaction. Allow Him to lavish you with affection and adoration, for You are the prized treasure He has created you to be.
Thank you for the everlasting love You have for me. You hold me dear to Your heart, You care for me, provide shelter and comfort. You are all I need when I’m not feeling cherished by those in my life. Help me to believe Your opinion of me higher than anyone else’s.